Here is an analogy from the book, Courage to Change, published by Al-Anon Family Groups.
“A Stonecutter may strike a stone ninety-nine times with no apparent effect, not even a crack on the surface. Yet, with the hundredth blow the rock splits in two.”
The analogy needs no illustration, as the intention is clear. There is a work in progress here. Everything that comes before that hundredth blow is part of the whole, though without the hundredth, the rock would not split.
Like the Al-Anon program, the writings here can shed a different perspective on life, but without the 12-step philosophy. There is a prevailing attitude about twelve-step programs that deliver condescension from some and I believe it’s because the process was created by and serves addicts.
I also believe the program can help everyone when it comes to perspective, life change and coping skills. The column here is meant to help whoever is open to it and for me it’s a way of life.
There is a credo, ethics, attitudes and goals. There is a process to it all, though it may not seem apparent at any particular moment. The goal, or the destination of these writings are to aid you in your journey through life. To bring you, sometimes kicking and screaming, along the path that was meant to be. The path you intended for yourself.
You may read the blog about the narrative of life and never come back, but I hope you will take something away from it. Though you will not get the full perspective of the series, each essay or blog is designed to stand on its own. There is a lesson involved and there’s a hope that the reader will be able to use that lesson practically.
As the stonecutter, your responsibility is to the rock. The rock may represent many things, but for this particular lesson, let’s say it represents your life. You will master it, as that is your goal. You will split it in two, if it takes a hundred years.
Your life is your responsibility. No one is going to live it for you.
A personal ancedote:
We all make choices in life and sometimes must sacrifice for those choices. I don’t like many of the sacrifices I make, but I live with them and understand they are a necessary part of my process. It is what I must do to claim what is mine.
Given this, I’m a writer. I’ve made the sacrifices for this and claim it as my own.
As will you. You are the stonecutter.
Carla R. Herrera is a writer, artist and communications specialist. She is also currently undergoing treatment in trauma therapy.
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